Welcome to my Lifestyle Parenting Blog, where I explore topics related to chronic illnesses such as ME/CFS, chronic pain, and fibromyalgia while embracing a passion for yoga, books, and blogging.

What is a Kinship Carer? Understanding Kinship Care, SGO and CAO
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What is a Kinship Carer? Understanding Kinship Care, SGO and CAO

It’s when family or friends step in and essentially stop a child from going into the care system with strangers.

Kinship care means familiarity, love, connection and so much more. It is about keeping a child within their family network, with people they already know, trust and feel safe with.

In simple terms, a kinship carer is someone who cares for a child when their birth parents are unable to, and instead of the child entering foster care, they remain within their extended family or close relationships.

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50 Gentle Affirmations for Chronic Illness That I Actually Use on Hard Days

Before I started using affirmations, I did not really believe in them.

They felt a bit forced. A bit too positive. A bit disconnected from the reality of living in a body that does not always cooperate.

When you are dealing with chronic illness, whether that is chronic fatigue, fibromyalgia, or something else entirely, your day is not built on motivation. It is built on managing energy, symptoms, and uncertainty. Some days you are just trying to get through

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11 Bathroom Aids for ME CFS and Fibromyalgia That Make Daily Life Easier
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11 Bathroom Aids for ME CFS and Fibromyalgia That Make Daily Life Easier

There is something about the bathroom that people do not talk about enough when it comes to chronic illness. It is one of the smallest rooms in the house, yet it can demand so much energy. Standing, bending, reaching, balancing, heat, steam, noise, bright lights.

I have had days where washing my hair has taken everything out of me. Days where I have sat on the floor because standing felt impossible.

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What Steps to Take When an SGO Is Failing: Real Support for Kinship Carers
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What Steps to Take When an SGO Is Failing: Real Support for Kinship Carers

There was a point where everything felt like it was slipping.

Not in a dramatic, obvious way. It was quieter than that. A slow build of pressure, behaviours escalating, school becoming harder, and home starting to feel less like a place of safety and more like a place of constant firefighting.

We had our Special Guardianship Order. On paper, we had permanence. We had done everything we were supposed to do.

But in reality, we were struggling.

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Travelling with Chronic Illness: What I Have Learned the Hard Way
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Travelling with Chronic Illness: What I Have Learned the Hard Way

There is a version of me that still exists in memory, the one who could pack a bag in twenty minutes, book something spontaneous, and just go. No planning around energy. No second guessing whether my body would cooperate. No quiet fear sitting in the background.

Living with ME CFS and fibromyalgia has changed that completely. Travel is no longer just about where I am going. It is about how much it will cost me physically, how long recovery will take, and whether the experience will be worth the inevitable crash that often follows.

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How I Practice Daily Affirmations While Living With ME CFS and Fibromyalgia and Why They Matter
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How I Practice Daily Affirmations While Living With ME CFS and Fibromyalgia and Why They Matter

Living with ME CFS and fibromyalgia has changed the way I speak to myself more than anything else in my life. Not in a motivational quote kind of way, but in a quiet, often fragile, very human way. When your body becomes unpredictable, when your energy disappears without warning, and when even simple tasks can feel like climbing a mountain, your internal dialogue can either become your harshest critic or your gentlest support.

For a long time, mine was not kind

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How to Manage Brain Fog with ME CFS and Fibromyalgia: Simple Ways to Stay Organised
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How to Manage Brain Fog with ME CFS and Fibromyalgia: Simple Ways to Stay Organised

Brain fog is one of those symptoms that is so hard to explain unless you are living it. It is not just forgetfulness. It is not just feeling a bit tired or distracted. It is like someone has wrapped your thoughts in cotton wool and then turned the lights down. Words disappear mid sentence. Simple tasks feel complicated. I can walk into a room and have no idea why I am there, and sometimes even forming a sentence feels like wading through mud.

Living with ME CFS and fibromyalgia means that brain fog is not an occasional inconvenience.

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When Appointments Become Too Much: Appointment Fatigue with Chronic Illness
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When Appointments Become Too Much: Appointment Fatigue with Chronic Illness

March has been one of those months that has quietly crept up on me and then completely taken over. It has been filled with appointments, tests, referrals, follow ups, and more waiting than I ever feel prepared for. On paper, I have managed quite well. I have shown up. I have answered the questions. I have done what needed to be done.

But underneath that, something else has been building.

That familiar feeling of appointment fatigue.

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How My Parenting Style Changed When I Became Chronically Ill
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How My Parenting Style Changed When I Became Chronically Ill

There is a version of me that existed before chronic illness. I can still picture it clearly. I moved quickly, thought quickly, and parented in a way that felt instinctive and responsive. I was always doing, always planning, always showing up in the ways I believed a “good parent” should.

Then came ME CFS and fibromyalgia, and everything I thought I knew about parenting quietly unravelled.

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Gentle Hobbies for Parents Living with Chronic Illness
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Gentle Hobbies for Parents Living with Chronic Illness

Living with ME CFS and fibromyalgia has changed many parts of my life in massive ways, but the part I have worked hardest to protect is the relationship I have with my husband, my sons and my daughter. When your energy is limited, when pain flares up without warning, and when even simple daily tasks can feel overwhelming, it can be easy to slip into guilt

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When Brain Fog Hits at the Doctor: Forgetting Symptoms During Medical Appointments
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When Brain Fog Hits at the Doctor: Forgetting Symptoms During Medical Appointments

There is anger, disappointment and frustration that comes with finally getting a medical appointment and then walking out realising you forgot to say half of what you meant to.

If you live with a chronic illness, you will probably recognise this feeling. You wait weeks, sometimes months, for an appointment with a doctor, surgeon, or consultant.

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When Your Jaw Stops Cooperating: A Health Update with ME CFS, Fibromyalgia and TMJ
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When Your Jaw Stops Cooperating: A Health Update with ME CFS, Fibromyalgia and TMJ

Living with chronic illness means medical appointments quietly become markers in time. Weeks or months pass waiting for them, and then suddenly you are sitting in a consultation room trying to summarise a complicated body in a few short sentences.

I recently had another appointment with the TMJ surgeon who will be treating my jaw problems.

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Is It Stimming, OCD, or Anxiety? How I Learned to Tell the Difference as a Parent
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Is It Stimming, OCD, or Anxiety? How I Learned to Tell the Difference as a Parent

For a long time, I thought the hardest part of parenting was learning how to respond in the moment. What I did not expect was how difficult it would be to understand what I was even responding to.

I watched my child repeat movements, phrases, rituals. I watched behaviours ramp up when they were overwhelmed, tired, excited, or under pressure. I watched them disappear into patterns that looked comforting one day and distressing the next. And I kept asking myself the same question, quietly and then out loud.

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My Bucket List Changed When I Became Chronically Ill
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My Bucket List Changed When I Became Chronically Ill

I never sat down and wrote an official bucket list. I was not someone who pinned grand ambitions to a corkboard or talked about ticking things off before a certain age. But like most people, I carried a quiet list in my head. A collection of assumptions really. Things I thought I would do later. Things that felt inevitable rather than urgent.

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The Hidden Cost of Hospital Stays When You Already Live with Chronic Illness
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The Hidden Cost of Hospital Stays When You Already Live with Chronic Illness

Being ill and having stays in hospitals is expensive. That is probably the clearest lesson the last couple of years have taught me. Not in an abstract, policy discussion kind of way. Not in a what if this happened sense. But in a lived, counted, receipts in my bag, fuel gauge blinking, body already exhausted kind of way.

I have lived with ME CFS for long enough to understand that illness already costs more than people realise. Appointments. Prescriptions. Travel. The quiet extras you never plan for. But hospital stays are a different level of expensive. They come with urgency. With fear. With decisions made quickly, while you are already stretched thin. And when several of those stays happen close together, the financial impact does not politely wait for you to recover.

It started with my younger son.

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Buying Walking Crutches Gave Me Back Part of My Life With Chronic Illness
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Buying Walking Crutches Gave Me Back Part of My Life With Chronic Illness

Buying walking crutches has been one of the best decisions I have made during my chronic illness journey. I have been using them for well over a year or two now, and that still feels strange to write. For a long time, I told myself I did not need them. I told myself I was not there yet. I told myself they would be an inconvenience. I convinced myself that using crutches would mean I had somehow failed at coping with my illness. Looking back, I can see how wrong I was on every single count.

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What Happens After You Get the Passport When You Have a Special Guardianship Order
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What Happens After You Get the Passport When You Have a Special Guardianship Order

When the passport finally arrived, I remember holding it in my hands and feeling something close to relief. Not excitement exactly. Relief mixed with exhaustion. If you have ever applied for a passport for a child under a Special Guardianship Order, you will understand why. It is not a simple tick box exercise. It is paperwork layered on top of court orders, parental responsibility, consent, uncertainty, and the constant fear of getting something wrong.

For a brief moment, I thought we were done. Passport sorted. Box ticked. Job finished.

But the truth is, the passport is only the beginning.

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Low Energy Hobbies for Chronic Illness: Gentle Activities for Flare Days
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Low Energy Hobbies for Chronic Illness: Gentle Activities for Flare Days

There is a very particular kind of quiet that comes with a flare day.

It is not peaceful. It is not restorative. It is the quiet of a body that has shut you down without warning. The quiet of plans cancelled, messages unanswered, the world continuing without you while you lie still and try not to make things worse.

Living with ME CFS has changed how I understand hobbies completely. Before illness, hobbies were about improvement, productivity, growth.

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